|Drivers have to be "on" all the time, like this tightrope walker|
at Charlotte Motor Speedway in Oct. 2012
Photo Credit: Charlotte Bray for Skirts and Scuffs
Sometimes NASCAR drivers have trouble with words. As celebrities, their comments are often recorded, transcribed or captured on video. Once in a while, even the remarks they make behind-the-scenes end up on-the-record. No matter what the scenario, drivers are expected to represent the sport well by what they say and do.
Can you imagine how much pressure it is to be “on” every time you set foot outside your motor home? Even when they’re filled with strong emotions, drivers are expected to be on their best verbal behavior. And if they’re not careful, a loose tongue can get them in more trouble than a loose racecar.
It’s so easy to criticize a driver’s comments from afar. But imagine if all of us were under that degree of verbal scrutiny. Could we drive the high line or would we get black-flagged for reckless words?
Being misunderstood is a terrible feeling. So is saying something rash that you end up regretting. Whether we’re talking on the phone, through a computer screen or face-to-face, spoken communication can be a tricky thing.
At one time or another, most of us have said something we thought was pretty clear, but someone who heard it misconstrued our words to mean something else. We said “ABC,” and someone else heard it as “XYZ.” It really stinks when you mean one thing and it is misinterpreted another way.
Worse yet, sometimes we phrase something awkwardly or utter inappropriate words without thinking. Someone gets offended and tells someone else, and things spiral out of control.
Can we avoid reckless words that lead to misunderstandings and harm?
Some misunderstandings can be prevented by using discretion and choosing our words wisely. People want quick answers, but it’s okay to pause and pray before speaking. Like the right adjustments on a racecar, a prayer for wisdom can do wonders for maneuvering through a delicate conversation.
But there are times when misunderstandings occur despite our best preparation and careful choice of words. That’s because people filter what they hear through their own set of perceptions and life experiences, which may be unknown to us.
One thing is certain though: God never misunderstands us. Thankfully He knows each of us down to the depths of our beings. When the motives behind our words are good, He knows. When our intentions are selfish or vindictive, He knows that, too.
It would be great if there was a “rewind” button that sucked loose words back into our mouths, erasing their sounds and making people forget. But spoken words can’t be taken back. When in doubt, pause, pray for insight and choose your words wisely.
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
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